Thank you for all of the input. Some are new ideas and some I'm already doing. Unfortunately her ears are taped 24/7 for 3-5 days at a time, down for less than an hour and posted right away. This is due to her having a lazy ear that doesn't stand at all when it isn't taped. She could potentially need to be taped for another year (although I'm hoping that won't be the case). I have sprayed her ears with bitter apple and tried bitter vet wrap but he didn't mind it. I've recently switched to a zip tie method which is flatter and doesn't cover the outside of the ear and he is leaving that alone a lot better.
1. I have already been working on a time out during play. I yell time out and they come and sit and get a cookie. That is going well and can break a situation where I feel he is being overbearing.
2. I do need to find either a mat or maybe an area where they can be tethered in the same room to learn to lay down without constant play so I can get some rest and TV time. I'm not very good at teaching lay down and stay over there. I can get lay down and stay while I watch but lay down and don't get up for 20 minutes is beyond my training.
3. I am already doing clicker training with both, hadn't considered doing that during a rare quiet time. Will try it.
4. Crate time...how much time is too much time? They are both crated all night in my room from 10pm-7am. They are crated if I leave the house (no more than 2-3 hours). I feel like adding to it just for separation/quiet time would be a lot of crate time. Of course I'm used to 3 or 4 dogs that were never crated because they were old and well behaved so crate time makes me feel bad.
5. I do plan on training them together once the girl gets better. I've been working with Fenwick since he was a baby but just with Riversong for a couple months. It really makes me see how much progress I made with him.
6. I do have 2 tall baby gates, one to keep them out of the rest of the house and one between my office and the dog room. If they can see each other they stand and play over the gate, eventually knocking it down. I can have one crated and one loose in the room but otherwise he is trying to play with her. Sometimes I can give him a sucky blanket and he'll leave her alone for an hour.
Thanks for all the info. I do need to go back to training Fen to leave it. We were working on training a lot and then got the sister and stopped the sessions.
When it is cooler and less smokey out I also want to go back to some of the things I did with him before she came. I believe a tired dog is a good dog. We had frequent trips to Home Depot (especially the bathroom with the scary blow dryers), the mall that allowed dogs and I did some urban mushing with him (training him to pull me on a scooter). I think I need to focus on tiring them out individually and supervising the playtime for now. I've looked at all of the sessions...if you have any other games or training let me know.